It's Okay If You Don't Agree With Me -- Sort of

This has been a quest. A quest to figure out Sharon's past and a quest toward some organization (as well as answers) for now and in the future.

So when I ask Sharon questions about Doctor's or appointments or past information about, well, anything...her tendency is to tell me what I want to hear than to tell me what is the right answer. OR she gets her stories/facts totally mixed up.

I find myself, when conversing with Sharon and trying to get a definite answer, saying to her "don't tell me what I want to hear, tell me what the truth is." I actually do not like having to make the statement because I feel like I am telling her that she is fibbing to me (which she has, but generally not in these cases). I guess I am just not sure of a better way to get the message across that it is okay to say what is the truth - OR - if you aren't sure, just tell me what you do know for sure and then tell me you don't know anymore. Yes, frustrating to not have the answers, but probably it wouldn't be as frustrating as this guessing game that we have been having.

Any thoughts on a better way to view and/or approach this topic is certainly welcome. I want her to feel she is a part of us figuring everything out, but at the same time, we need to continue to move forward and (ideally) at a quicker pace that she is processing. I know this makes it a little harder on her because she isn't used to working at our pace, but we have so many balls in the air and can't really afford to let too many drop...especially not when it comes to figuring out all that includes Sharon.